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June 3, 2021

Why are people Moving?

What’s Motivating People To Move Right Now?

What’s Motivating People To Move Right Now? | MyKCM

This year, Americans are moving for a variety of reasons. The health crisis has truly reshaped our lifestyles and our needs. Spending so much more time in our current homes has driven many people to reconsider what homeownership means and what they find most valuable in their living spaces.

According to the 2020 Annual National Movers Study:

“For customers who cited COVID-19 as an influence on their move in 2020, the top reasons associated with COVID-19 were concerns for personal and family health and wellbeing (60%); desires to be closer to family (59%); 57% moved due to changes in employment status or work arrangement (including the ability to work remotely); and 53% desired a lifestyle change or improvement of quality of life.”

With a new perspective on homeownership, here are some of the reasons people are reconsidering where they live and making moves right now.

1. Working from Home

Remote work became the new norm, and for some, it’s persisting longer than initially expected. Many in the workforce today are discovering they don’t need to live so close to the office anymore and they can get more for their money if they move a little further outside the city limits. Apartment List notes:

“The COVID pandemic has sparked a rebound in residential migration: survey data suggest that 16 percent of American workers moved between April 2020 and April 2021, up from 14 percent in 2019 and the first increase in migration in over a decade… One of the major drivers in this trend is remote work, which expanded greatly in response to COVID and will remain prevalent even after the pandemic wanes. No longer tethered to a physical job site, remote workers were 53 percent more likely to move this past year than on-site workers.”

If you’ve tried to convert your guest room or your dining room into a home office with minimal success, it may be time to find a larger home. The reality is, your current house may not be optimally designed for this kind of space, making remote work very challenging.

2. Room for Fitness & Activities

Staying healthy and active is a top priority for many Americans, and dreams of having space for a home gym are growing stronger. A recent survey of 4,538 active adults from 122 countries noted the three fastest-growing fitness trends amongst active adults:

  • At-home fitness equipment (up 50%)
  • Personal trainers/nutritionists (up 48%)
  • Online fitness courses, classes, and subscriptions (up 17%)

Having room to maintain a healthy lifestyle at home – physically and mentally – may prompt you to consider a new place to live that includes space for at-home workouts, hobbies, and activities for your household.

3. Outdoor Space

Better Homes & Gardens recently released the outdoor living trends for this year, and three of them are:

  • Outdoor Kitchens: 60% of homeowners are looking to add outdoor kitchens.
  • Edible Garden: Millions of people began gardening during the pandemic . . . to supplement pantries with homegrown fruits, vegetables, and herbs.
  • Secluded Spaces: As outdoor activity increases, so does the need for privacy.

You may not, however, currently have the space you need for these designated areas – inside or out.

Bottom Line

If you’re clamoring for more room to accommodate your changing needs, making a move may be your best bet, especially while you can take advantage of today’s low mortgage rates. It’s a great time to get more home for your money, just when you need it most.

Posted in House Trends
May 27, 2021

How Misunderstandings about Affordability Could Cost You

How Misunderstandings about Affordability Could Cost You

How Misunderstandings about Affordability Could Cost You | MyKCM

There’s a lot of discussion about affordability as home prices continue to appreciate rapidly. Even though the most recent index on affordability from the National Association of Realtors (NAR) shows homes are more affordable today than the historical average, some still have concerns about whether or not it’s truly affordable to buy a home right now.

When addressing this topic, there are various measures of affordability to consider. However, very few of the indexes compare the affordability of owning a home to renting one. In a paper just published by the Urban Institute, Homeownership Is Affordable Housing, author Mike Loftin examines whether it’s more affordable to buy or rent. Here are some of the highlights included.

1. Renters pay a higher percentage of their income toward their rental payment than homeowners pay toward their mortgage.

The report explains:

“When we look at the median housing expense ratio of all households, the typical homeowner household spends 16 percent of its income on housing while the typical renter household spends 26 percent. This is true, you might say, because people who own their own home must make more money than people who rent. But if we control for income, it is still more affordable to own a home than to rent housing, on average.”

Here’s the data from the report shown in a graph:How Misunderstandings about Affordability Could Cost You | MyKCM

2. Renters don’t have extra money to invest in other assets.

The report goes on to say:

“Buying a home is not a decision between investing in real estate versus investing in stocks, as financial advisers often claim. Instead, the home buying investment simply converts some portion of an existing expense (renting) into an investment in real estate.”

It explains that you still have a housing expense (rent payments) even if you don’t buy a home. You can’t live in your 401K, but you can transfer housing expenses to your real estate investment. A mortgage payment is forced savings; it goes toward building equity you will likely get back when you sell your home. There’s no return on your rent payments.

3. Your mortgage payment remains relatively the same over time. Your rent keeps going up.

The report also notes:

“Whereas renters are continuously vulnerable to cost increases, rising home prices do not affect homeowners. Nobody rebuys the same home every year. For the homeowner with a fixed-rate mortgage, monthly payments increase only if property taxes and property insurance costs increase. The principal and interest portion of the payment, the largest portion, is fixed. Meanwhile, the renter’s entire payment is subject to inflation.

Consequently, over time, the homeowner’s and renter’s differing trajectories produce starkly different economic outcomes. Homeownership’s major affordability benefit is that it stabilizes what is likely the homeowner’s biggest monthly expense, assuming a buyer has a fixed-rate mortgage, which most American homeowners do. The only portion of the homeowner’s housing expenses that can increase is taxes and insurance. The principal and interest portion stays the same for 30 years.”

A mortgage payment remains about the same over the 30 years of the mortgage. Here’s what rents have done over the last 30 years:How Misunderstandings about Affordability Could Cost You | MyKCM

4. If you want to own a home and can afford it, waiting could cost you.

As the report also indicates:

“We need to stop seeing housing as a reward for financial success and instead see it as a critical tool that can facilitate financial success. Affordable homeownership is not the capstone of economic well-being; it is the cornerstone.”

Homeownership is the first rung on the ladder of financial success for most households, as their home is most often their largest asset.

Bottom Line

If the current headlines reporting a supposed drop-off in home affordability are making you nervous, let’s connect to go over the real insights into our area.

Posted in Home Tips
Sept. 15, 2020

Housing Update August 2020

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The August Housing Market continues to move forward with high demand and low inventory.  The interest rates are also at historic lows.  This has caused the housing market to reach the highest Average Home Price ever in Albuquerque.  This is good news for home owners who can take advantage of their record-high equity or even refinance.

On the other hand it is still extremely competitive for home buyers.  Buyers are having to bid at list price and commonly over list price which is causing house pricing to rise.  

One of the main drivers of this housing economy is the crazy low interest rates.  They are predicting that rates will remain low for the next 12 months, we shall see.  This doesn't mean you should wait to refinance your home.   

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Average Home Price  $299,444  +15.8%
Closed Sales               1265         +1.4%
Pending Sales             1481         +32.1%
%List Price Received                     99.5%
Inventory of Homes     1188          -57.2%


 


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Sept. 8, 2020

Is it Time to Dump Your Rental

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The Housing Market continues to move forward with high demand and low inventory.  The interest rates are also at historic lows.  This has created opportunities for people to refinance their homes and also sell their unwanted rental properties.

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Here are 10 Tips to Know if it is Time to Dump your Rental

  1.  Being a Landlord is More trouble than it's Worth (Is the Stress worth more than the revenue?)
  2. Your property is worth a lot more than when you bought it. (Is the Return on Equity out of line?)
  3. You no Longer See a Positive Cash Flow (Have the repairs, and other costs increased over time?)
  4. You are Ready to Move On (Are you a long-distance landlord?)
  5. You can longer afford the maintenance  (Is it an older property)
  6. You can read the writing on the Wall.  (Do you want to take an advantage of this up market?)
  7. You need the Capital to pay off --College, or other Debts. ( Will you need the money in the next couple of years?)
  8. Identified a Better Investment Opportunity (1031 Exchange)
  9. Inherits a Property
  10. Accidental Landlord (Are you still holding onto that house you bought in the 2006-2008 housing bubble? You are recovered now)
We love rental property when it is done right.  

Martha and Alex are live on Facebook at 9:00 am every Saturday and Wed talking about Real Estate, life and whatever else Martha wants to talk about.


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July 28, 2020

Guidance and Support are Key When Buying Your first Home

Guidance and Support Are Key When Buying Your First Home

Guidance and Support Are Key When Buying Your First Home | MyKCM

In June, the number of first-time homebuyers accounted for 35% of the existing homes sold, a trend that’s been building steadily throughout the year. According to the National Association of Realtors (NAR):

“The share of first-time buyers increased in March through June—right into the heart of the pandemic period and the surge in unemployment—and is now trending higher than the 29% to 32% average in past years since 2012.” (See graph below):

Guidance and Support Are Key When Buying Your First Home | MyKCM

Why the rise in first-time homebuying?

NAR continues to say:

“The major factor is, arguably, low mortgage rates. As of the week ended July 16, the 30-year fixed mortgage rate dropped to 2.98%. With rates so low that are locked in under a 30-year mortgage, the typical mortgage payment, estimated at $1,036, has fallen below the median rent, at $1,045. For potential home buyers who were thinking of purchasing a home anyway before the pandemic outbreak and who are likely to remain employed, the low mortgage rate may be the clincher.”

Clearly, historically low mortgage rates are encouraging many to buy. With the average mortgage payment now estimated at a lower monthly cost than renting, it’s a great time for first-time homebuyers to enter the market. According to the Q2 2020 Housing Trends Report from the National Association of Homebuilders (NAHB):

“Eighty-four percent of Gen Z’s planning to buy a home are first timers, compared to 68% of Millennials, 52% of Gen X’s, and 21% of Boomers. Looking at results by region shows that over 60% of prospective buyers in the Northeast and South are buying a home for the first time. The share is above 55% in the Midwest and West.”

There are, however, challenges for first-time buyers. A recent survey conducted by NeighborWorks America also notes that understanding the homebuying process may be the most significant barrier for many hopeful homeowners:

“Homeownership is a particular challenge for many, despite high levels of interest. Americans believe there are many benefits to homeownership and half of non-owners will seek information about the process in the next few years...a large share of non-owners say the process is too challenging and only a minority know where to find advice if they wanted it. And although many would seek the guidance of community and non-profit programs, only one in three non-owners are aware of such services.”

Guidance and Support Are Key When Buying Your First Home | MyKCMIf you’re among the first-time homebuyers who feel the process is complicated, you’re not alone. If you’re not sure where to begin or you simply want help in figuring out how to save for a home, finding a trusted real estate advisor to work with is a critical step toward your success. A real estate professional can help you understand the process, review your current situation, and guide you with a plan to help you to feel confident when buying a home.

Bottom Line

If you’re interested in purchasing a home and need help getting started, let’s connect today so you can take advantage of the support available to guide you through each step of the way.

Posted in Home Buying Tips
July 20, 2020

Is now the Right Time to Sell

Thinking of Selling Your House? Now May be the Right Time

Thinking of Selling Your House? Now May be the Right Time | MyKCM

Inventory is arguably the biggest challenge for buyers in today’s housing market. There are simply more buyers actively looking for homes to purchase than there are sellers selling them, so the scale is tipped in favor of the sellers.

According to the latest Existing Home Sales Report from the National Association of Realtors (NAR), total housing inventory is down 18.8% from one year ago. Inventory is well below what was available last year, and the houses that do come to the market are selling very quickly.

Sam Khater, Chief Economist at Freddie Mac notes:

“Simply put, new housing supply is not keeping up with rising demand. We estimate that the housing market is undersupplied by 3.3 million units, and the shortage is rising by about 300,000 units a year. More than half of all states have a housing shortage.”

Why is inventory so low?

There are many reasons why it’s hard to find a home to buy today, stemming from an undersupply of newly constructed homes to sellers pressing pause on their moving plans due to the current health pandemic. One of the key factors making it even more challenging, however, is the amount of time current homeowners are staying in their homes. There has truly been a fundamental shift in the market that started about 10 years ago: people are staying put longer, and it’s contributing to the shortage of houses for sale.

In the 2019 Profile of Home Buyers and Sellers, NAR explained:

“In 2019, the median tenure for sellers was 10 years…After 2008, the median tenure in the home began to increase by one year each year. By 2011, the median tenure reached nine years, where it remained for three consecutive years, and jumped up again in 2014 to 10 years.”

As shown in the graph below, historical data indicates that staying in a home for 5-7 years used to be the norm, until the housing bubble burst. Since 2010, that length of time has trended upward, toward 9-10 years, largely due to homeowners aiming to recoup their equity:Thinking of Selling Your House? Now May be the Right Time | MyKCMThankfully, with the strength the market has gained over the last 10 years, today’s homeowners are in a much better equity position. Now is a fantastic time for homeowners who are ready to make a move to break the 10-year trend and sell their houses, especially while buyer demand is so high and inventory is so low. It’s a prime time to sell.

In addition, with today’s historically low interest rates, there’s an opportunity for sellers to maintain a low monthly payment while getting more house for their money. Think: move-up opportunity, more square footage, or finding the features they’re really looking for rather than doing costly renovations. With more new homes poised to enter the market this year, homeowners ready to make a move may have a golden opportunity to do so right now.

Bottom Line

There are simply not enough houses for sale today. If you’re ready to leverage your equity and sell your house, let’s connect today. It’s a great time to move while demand for homes to buy is extremely high.

Posted in House Trends
June 10, 2020

Procrastination Monkey

Well the procrastination monkey has made an appearance at our house.  Martha and I are realtors in the Albuquerque Area and are at the time of this recording are home schooling 4 of our 6 children.  the other two are adults and have surpassed my ability to help them with school many years ago.

We had a good system going, we thought, until we discovered our daughter is missing deadlines and staying up doing homework until midnight to finish assignments.  Yes that is when we discovered the Procrastination Monkey is residing in our home.  I always new him and I were friends, I have always preferred to do what was fun more so than what was 'Important'.  This week's video Martha and I discuss procrastination, and it might not serve you well when buying a home.

 

 

Posted in Coffee Talks
Oct. 8, 2019

2019 August Albuquerque Market Update

So August is over. I'm a little sad. I love the heat. You know, it feels like a great big hug. Martha, don't you love the heat? You know what was interesting about August, you're complaining how hot it was. Do you know how many days we had over a hundred degrees in August 31 zero zero. I looked it up. Zero. So you know what else happened in August, which is probably our most exciting thing. Mark kids went back to school. Yeah, I know I say this every August, but the kids went back to school and all of them. It wasn't just like four or five other five. They're all of them. Even the baby kindergarten in school. So cool. The other thing that happened in August, which actually is becoming a little bit bigger deal now on August 13th was national left-hander day. I've actually seen little cards and stuff with that. So tall. You left-handers happy, happy late left-hander day. And a little shout out to my favorite left-hander, Jacob. We've got a little video of him right here. Well, you know your mom's also left-handed, right? Special shout out to my two favorite left-handers. Hi mom. Little video of Jacob right here. Thank you. Think I'm going to get in trouble or not. Yeah, so what was hot was the August real estate market, so let's get into that right now.

You talked about it. Yes, inventory keeps going down. So August we had 2,418 detached homes for sale, which is down over 30% from this time last year, which we had 3,483 homes. Okay. Pending sales pending sales are still going up. So we had 1,276 homes that went under contract in August, which is up from 1,115 this time last year. The other thing I like to look at is closed, right? We just want to make sure things are selling and that they're actually closing. So we had 1,241 home sell in August, which is up about 7% over last year, which was 1,157 so sales and everything is still steady. So average sales price for August. This is 258,279 which is up a little under 2% from August, 2018 which was 253,817 so in July we saw a lot bigger gain on the average sales price, but we're still at 7% appreciation for the year.

So the other thing that we like to look at is days on market, which for August was 34 days on market average, which this time last year was 38 days. So we still have a decline on days on market, which means houses are moving quickly. Okay. So nationally they're starting to see a little bit of a slow down and that's why we saw interest rates drop. They're trying to encourage that, uh, momentum to keep going. But we are nationally starting to see a bit of a slowdown. So Martha, what are you seeing in the million dollar market? Only three. Only three. What? How's this sold in August? Well that's still pretty good, isn't it? I guess so. Two in Albuquerque, one in Los Ranchos, and I still didn't take you to go look at one. Did I? No, I'm sorry. Maybe next month. Maybe I'll just go on my own. Maybe it will just go on your own. Thank you guys. I hope this was helpful and I'll see you later.

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Sept. 19, 2019

Coffee Talk: Technology and Children

Hello everyone. Welcome to our second episode. I guess coffee chat about life, coffee, jog, coffee.
right. Well we're going to talk about this month. Oh, recap from our last one cause we were talking about what to do with a room, you know, once a kid who's off to college. Yes. Guess what we do with the empty room. It's not empty. We had another kid moved back in, so sorry. Chloe. Yeah, no room this year. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. It's all, the other thing that we noticed over the summer that we had to deal with was man, just bad attitudes, just horrible attitudes. Would you agree? Grumpy, irritable, not willing to help. Tired. Very tired and literally, literally on my, my nine year old bags under his eyes. Yes. I think, Oh well come to find out we had a dopamine addiction problem over the summer that we're still dealing with. Yes, and that's what we wanted to talk about on this coffee talk was just, I know we're all dealing with these struggles with our kids and everything else.

Yes, it's man. How do we balance a good family life and technology? Yes. Because technology isn't going anywhere, so we need to learn to figure it out. Absolutely. So one of the things that we did was we just asked the kids to check to see how much time they were spending on their phones. Yes. And that blew my mind. Do you remember how much time? Close to six hours a day for some of them. Yeah. The, the two older girls. I mean they were within like a couple minutes of each other, I guess. Full time job. Well it's a part time job. It'd be a full time job for me. Okay. That'd be like two full time jobs that we, you know, brought up a couple of points. So. So one of the things was, all right, well what's the proper age? Or if there's a proper age to let somebody have this technology. Right. And then the other questions that we had with it is what are the things that they're looking at? We've got to control that part of it, right? Yes. Did we have a third point with that?

We have a third point. Did we? Or was it just two points? I think it was just the two, right? They're looking at and how much time they're spending. So the first thing we talked about was just the amount of time. So once they identify that, I think they were shocked as well though. Then I think the girls actually did try to scale it back because for the next week they're all like, look, my time is way down. So they monitored themselves a little bit on that. That was nice. And then so there's two pieces to it. Like when we were looking at the time part of it, to me, one part is okay, it's entertainment, right? Yes. So we're looking at it as entertainment. Is it any worse than watching TV for six hours straight?

No, actually it's equivalent. I think it's a little worse than TV. Right. And I remember as a kid, cause I was, you know, and TV generation. So I remember when TV started going all night. Do you remember that? Unfortunately I do. And I think that generation, my parents, probably the your parents, my grandparents probably felt that TV's going to bring down this whole civilization. They actually did. I've read a lot about this. And in the 50s when TV started being in more households, parents were concerned that the programming on TV in the 1950s was going to corrupt their young children. So they thought John Wayne was causing issues. Wagon train, IOM was a wagon train, you know, the lone ranger, big problems for our kids. What about before that? Before that was radio programming. No way. So in the 30s when radios became very popular and when in everyone's home, a bunch of moms and New York formed a coalition to get the radio to control the usage cause they're worried about what was coming into their [inaudible] kids.

Um, I guess their realm there. So what are your kids listening to versus what your parents teach you? So yeah, these outside influences, it's been a concern for almost a hundred years. So I like, Oh, I don't remember the radio. I liked what you said with that though, because it brought up the other kind of part of it. So one, we can look at it as entertainment, which is fine, but it's also as parents, we need to control what is influencing our kid if we want to. I mean we don't have to, we feel that we should probably monitor what's kind of coming in because that does influence the way the VA yeah, I think as parents it's art duty to um, understand what our kids are listening to and how it affects them and what they're watching and how that's gonna affect them versus the morals that we're trying to instill in them as a family.

Think the average, did you do any research on the average amount of time people spend or kids spent on the phone? I didn't do a lot of research on it, but I, the American Academy of pediatrics says that, you know, no more than two hours a day. The two hours a day it would be, it's healthy for any child and kids under two shouldn't be on a device at all, which I think most of us, today's parents are guilty of handing our phone to our kid to watch a YouTube video to calm them down in a restaurant or a store because that dopamine kicks in. Well it's become a pacifier. So that's a good point. So thinking about that though, so why it calm them down so much? Why does it work as a, as a pacifier? Because dopamine is the feel good drug. It's a feel good neurotransmitter your brain produces like when you run, when you eat food that you really love, when you meet someone that you really love, like us now.

Yeah, no when, sure, sure. When you watch something that makes you happy. So if you really are into some specific show or some YouTube or, and they posted a video, you're all excited to see what they're up to. Which is dope. I mean addiction. Oh absolutely. And the little notifications. Oh, so big news on Facebook. Did that actually happen? What the like, Oh, I don't know if it actually happened yet, but Facebook is trying to combat that dopamine addiction a little bit. It's been in the news for the past couple of weeks now they're going to not make conflicts the number of likes on a post, so you can't go through and see, Oh, my friend's post got 500 likes and mine got to, because they're concerned that people feel bad if they don't get as many likes as other people on their posts because it's very important to everyone.

I think that posts something on Facebook. Then people like it, not just our kids, but keeping us adults to that like and that share. So that would be the other part of that. So we have entertainment then we have like the social networking aspect of it. Yes. And you touched on that, right? It's like it makes you feel good. Yes. How many subscribers do you have? Do you know? I do. I just checked today. Does it make you feel good when you get another subscriber on your YouTube channel? It does. There's nothing wrong with that, but it is a dopamine addiction and just like anything. So you get it. Like when you go gambling, would you take your seven year old? What'd we take our seven year old gambling? No wait, I don't have a seven year old. No. Got a nine year old who you take a nine year old gambling?

No. Or the five-year-old? No, probably not. Even the 14 year old. No, I don't even want to take the 21 year old. So let's see. Exactly. So that, that's, that's a good point. With that, we don't, we know what it needs to be monitored. It does need to be monitored. It affects their daily life and affects their schoolwork and affects their willingness to do something so simple as read. They don't want to read teachers. I've told by a lot of teachers they're having trouble with kids not wanting to read because there's so much technology and instant gratification. They don't want to take that time to read a paragraph and comprehend what's going on or read a book and find out what happens in the end. So it's really taking away from their, my bigger concern with this thing is, is so one, uh, lack of focus, right?

Because at least when we had cable we had to wait through the commercials to watch our show. And if we just kept like changing the channel, we're annoying everybody else. We couldn't go back to that same show. We were watching it without missing it. We, we had to kind of focus at least to watch one channel at a time. Yeah. Now they can bounce back and forth infinite amount of time. Yes. Yes. You can pause things. And so the concern is that it's going to be harder to actually focus on things cause there's this concept of multitasking, which may not even be a real thing. You can't multitask. Multitasking doesn't work. I just heard somebody say on the radio, you know, there's, people say they can multitask cause they be on their phone and there's more texting and driving accidents now than anything. So you really can't multitask.

So then to me, another consequences of that would be just the creativity piece. We need to have downtime just to daydream. I want my kids, I don't mind if my kids aren't doing anything. At least they're maybe thinking about their future. Right? They're daydreaming about this or that when we have, when they're on their devices and I'm just as bad as they are and I'm working on it. It is an addiction. When's that time to be creative? Because you just imagine what would happen to society if we lose all creativity. Oh, it'd be horrible. Technology might come to a standstill to true am I mean somebody who's advancing this stuff? Absolutely. So the first thing we did was, you know, just like any addiction, identify the problem and it Mitt, I have a problem with technology and getting the kids to admit it. That's a little different cause they kind of do need to come to that place on their own.

And thankfully school started up again. It's made it a little easier. It has there. Well they're busy. They're busy. But yes. So the second thing that we did was a whole weekend without the technology. Oh yeah. It did make them not play video games, not be on their phones for the entire weekend. And the bags under our nine year olds eyes went away because attitude was bad. Attitude change, honestly, even the girls too. And they were, what was funny was they were talking to us, they engaged with us and having like normal conversations. So in this firm, some of the stuff that we've read, well mainly you research that doing a little weekend off, like complete T. that's very good. Yeah. And w were they like in the, it's kind of become trendy too. I mean people are taking these vacations from their devices. There's companies that are giving out awards if you'll go off Facebook or leave your device for a month.

So families are doing this just so they can reengage and reconnect and start being a family again and not just a group of people sitting around the dinner table on their devices. So that was another thing that we stick to. Yes. When we're eating dinner together, no devices. Um, I'm, I'm trying to push when we were in the car together, no devices cause to me that's a good time for us to talk. But that's not working difficult yet. But I think little limits. Um, I don't let the kids sleep with their phones anymore cause we found that they're getting up in the middle of the night and I don't think they're doing anything wrong. No. I'm maybe naive and I trust my kids, but they're still on it and it's not good. It's interfering with their sleep cycle. Right. And they're getting this dopamine hit it one in the morning.

Yes. It's not good. So they all have to charge their phones. Where are we doing it? Out in the kitchen. They're not in their rooms either in our bedroom or in the kitchen. And we're doing a a tech check before they go to bed. Yes, because we have found that that little sneaky one of mine, he'd sneak one of the little devices under the mattress. Oh no, I don't know where it is. Yeah. And then the next day we see him and his bags are worse than mine. Yes. So good little tips. Identify there's a problem. Let's start monitoring it. Does that you too. Everybody just look at your hours on your phone. You'll, you'll be surprised. You really wrote it. And then if we can't manage it as adults, you know, as parents and watching our kids, there are great apps. There are a lot of apps that would help out with that.

Like you got a couple of suggestion. Well Apple has their own, um, the, the biggest one that I saw with something called custodial and it's, you see that they don't puppuccino Oh, cute. That's so cute. Sidetracked much. But it's a puppet Chino. Okay, good. Sorry. So one of the, um, most highly rated apps was called custodial, spelled with a Q instead of a C for monitoring what your kids are watching. So if you are concerned that what your kids are searching is inappropriate, you can check that you can block certain things. I do believe even you can turn the wifi off and the data off at certain hours of the day. So if you know your kid's using their phone as an alarm clock, which our kids like to use that as an excuse, even though they have an alarm clock, you can cut off their data.

So they have the alarm clock, but they can't be doing these other things. And a lot of cable companies now are doing that as well. Where you can control when people can be online is a great, great idea. Which is a good help for us because I think since we watched some TV as a babysitter, we don't see the harm in it so much. No. Agreed. So these are great tips, Martha. Yes. Thank you. Thank you. And we will see you guys next month on the next coffee talk. Coffee talk. Can we do topic maybe? No. Tophi copy you like topic. I like topic, but it's hard to talk. That would make it, that would be an odd little broadcast or wouldn't it? Yeah. To top top talk in your mouth. All right. We'll do coffee talk and puppet chinos. I don't have a puppy.
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Sept. 19, 2019

Coffee Talk: College and an Empty Room

I'm sitting here 
with yes I'm here was Martha my lovely wife and as she's also going to be a real estate agent she's working on the classes now and you'll pass the test first time right with the higher score than you yeah you probably will all right how big is an acre 3 5 6 0 because you looked it up so what I want to talk about today is so we do a lot of stuff that's just you know basically real estate related like what's the interest rate now what you have urge silent sales price for a house right and that's not really what a house is about no I mean a house is the memories we make you know people that live it is the people that live there can you remember when you know the kids lose their first tooth the tooth fairy visits this place if there's other things that happen besides just the value of the property going on so that's what we want these talks to be so we've got our little coffee talk I'm just talking about stop family family stuff you know that has to do with the house right and our personal experiences in their people so I don't know you know me and Martha we've been together 23 years yep and we have six kids yes we do the oldest is 21 and be 22 this year and the youngest is 5 so what I want to talk about now is our second oldest is gonna be moving off to college and just that whole process so we went to what they call freshman orientation yes freshman orientation a couple of weeks back and they were bringing up things that I haven't thought about before so like when you went what did they talk about with you when I went they talked a lot about where your tuition dollars go and all the things that your students get included in that tuition the down to paper again like you know gym memberships and counseling services and they also talked a lot about how you know you can't pick your kids classes form and you don't get to see their grades oh yeah and even on that like the medical stuff up we have million yeah Medical nothing access nothing yet without a specific proxy program actually talk to other parents that have had the same experience and they're like fit it's our money so we can't even say it over here they don't care enough without special permission from you we don't we have no say yeah that's IndieGoGo oh they don't mind that all right what else do they show you oh yes yes Lobo owl for those of you that aren't familiar with UNM that's where our sons going yeah so yeah that was interesting well let us pay for everything but we don't have access to any of his internal looting which is kind of ties in to what we're going to talk about and that is a little bit of you know separating ourselves from our kids a little bit letting them grow up so I went Martha went one day I went the next day and I think I got the counseling session because we watched clips from Finding Nemo when he goes off to school and the dad is very protective and didn't want him to go and I kind of feel a little bit like Nemo's dad right now probably and one of the questions they asked and this just it just floored me was well when the kid moves out what are you gonna do with his room it's a good question I I never thought of that I just figured it Zach's room he's gonna come back it's not leaving no I disagree yeah I know you disagree but that that brought up what do we do with this extra space now yeah all right so we have four more kids ship one more kids but he's not personal know about now so obviously we don't have a seven-bedroom house for six kids right so with our four-bedroom house the oldest moved and the next one in line got his room well that one made sense because they had a baby now we have two kids sharing Roman two kids sharing a room and then this oldest one that's about to let go where that room will be empty what are we gonna do with it and so like I kind of tease the kids you know I got to share a room with your mom you guys can share a room - but our oldest daughter Chloe start in high school think she should get that room I agree I I have a hard time whatever Zach's um come back for Christmas where's he gonna sleep in that fifth bedroom we made but what if Jonah comes back you might come back making sure so that's kind of the point just kind of letting go with it let it go you can't keeping their room like a shrine to them it's tying them to your house away all right so you had your own room growing up right did have my own room growing up so when you came back from college what did your room look like it looks the same way so your mom did turn it into a gym now studio or anything see the same with me my parents left the room the same it was still my room so it just to me it feels like a little weird I don't want him to feel like he doesn't have somewhere to go and we're not kicking them out are we no one is keeping mouths so just how long did your mom keep your room like that - for you until you know she realized you weren't coming off - so I that would be one thing you keep the rooms the same until they get married you could do that but however flip side here okay I have one sibling my mother  in the three-bedroom house she didn't need the room for another child she didn't have kids locked up threw together two teenage girls we all know how teenage girls fight we've experienced it so cute you experienced it and a little space is good for kids that hasn't even moved out and we're already like friend to dues I'm government trying to kick him out and you think he understands that he always has a home and he he had to share a room for many years so he gets it by the next one in line would want her own room I don't think he'd be grudge it and I think he'd understand and we keep the bunk beds in the girls room so when he's home for Christmas I might I might be already I'm not all hey let's repaint oh I can see that they already agreed on a color for their together so nobody moves out she's so the counselor that was talking to us in this whole process and it did it became like a kumbaya all the parents were giving their little stories and everything we didn't hold hands I think it super weird but one thing that was mentioned was talk talk to the kids so we should talk to his act see how he feels about it and and most of the feedback from the people that have done this in the past they were ready to move on the kids they really didn't care as much as well maybe as much as I do about it and like you were reading earlier it sounds like that's just a good stepping stone this is a good stepping stone and like I said you don't want to tether the kid to your house and I heard red but I won't either do you have a bollock afford I want to keep my feathers I read this wonderful story this guy was saying he went off to school and he thought it was nice you know he always knows he can go home because obviously we're never let them sleep on the street but it was a nice release mechanism there to have his stuff put away and it's not his room anymore it's kind of a nice simple saying you know what you are an adult town you are out of your home so just a soft transition almost oh yeah you always have a place to land so we're gonna sell the house and get us more hot I read that to some people we had people downsizing house after the kids so the kid doesn't have a place to come back a little harsh all right that might be aggressive but you know just to store your things for you not gonna hide them I'm gonna sell anything of his I'll put it in a box and keep it like I did with the oldest one and when he's ready to come pick up his box there's a lot his box stop all right I seriously just brought my high school yearbook back just now this last trip clear my mom saw some of my stuff doesn't she well sometimes my things and thinks it's burn that was a little nostalgic so you know my son just graduated alright so always get in the bedroom while she keeps her room cleaner than you well I don't want the room I'm gonna do the room we kinda have a place for my shoes I wouldn't trip over them if they're in your own room that is that is true okay so he gets the room she'll be so excited all right thank you guys you guys comment below do you have somebody moving off to college and then you got this extra room that maybe you're gonna turn into a what are you guys should man cave or just something else that you can do with it look below I'd love to hear what you guys are gonna do with this extra space what do you even call that the partial empty nest is kind of a quasi empty nest yeah yeah newfound space new film space alright hope you enjoyed it thank you guys
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